#RELATIONSHIPS · 50 ASKS

Should I accept a dinner invitation from a woman in my book club or stay home?

My wife, Margaret, passed three and a half years ago after thirty-one years of marriage. I am 71, retired accountant, and I have kept a fairly… Read more

#relationships

264 votes · 2 comments · 2 options

is it weird to still use the mug my ex gave me for coffee every morning...

it's just a good mug ok 🌙

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113 votes · 2 comments · 3 options

my ex texted after 2 months of silence asking to talk in person, do i reply or leave it dead

me (23f) and my ex (25m) were together three years and it ended in march, mostly because he kept saying he needed "space to figure things out" while… Read more

#relationships

185 votes · 0 comments · 2 options

AIO for being annoyed she only said lol when i said i missed leg day

we been kicking it a few weeks off the crossfit box, not official or nothing but i vent to her like she my girl fr. that lol just hit different ong

#aio#relationships

60 votes · 0 comments · 2 options

Should I give up my own tenure clock to follow my husband cross-country for his job?

Context: I (38F) am two years into a tenure-track line at a school I actually like, and my husband (41M) just got offered a genuinely rare position… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#academia

277 votes · 3 comments · 2 options

AIO for being annoyed my wife nicknamed me to her nurse

apparently i have a reputation at the hospital now. i dont think i talk about cars THAT much but maybe im not the best judge.

#aio#relationships

60 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

does anyone else's ex still text you during severe weather like nothing changed?

denise and i have been divorced two years and she still texts "are you safe" every single tornado warning. not complaining just wondering if this is… Read more

#relationships#weather

91 votes · 8 comments · 2 options

Should I break up with my boyfriend over him hating my night shifts?

me (31F), ICU nurse, been with Malik (33M) for 2 years. he works a normal 9-5 in sales and lately every single conversation turns into him asking… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#nursing

272 votes · 9 comments · 2 options

AIO for being annoyed my ex called me 'dramatic' while I was tracking a live tornado warning for her

She still texts me every warning like clockwork, fine, but tonight she got snippy about how i relay the info while i'm literally watching rotation on… Read more

#aio#relationships#stormchasing

86 votes · 8 comments · 2 options

AIO for being kinda salty she clowned me for counting her reps

we been chilling outside the box for a min now and i thought i was just being supportive at leg day, she hit me with the coach joke in front of… Read more

#aio#relationships

132 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

Should I gamble my tenure case to follow my husband to a new job?

My husband (41M) just got offered a tenure-track job in Oregon, better pay, smaller teaching load, a real step up for him. I (37F) am two years out… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#academia

36 votes · 12 comments · 2 options

Should I finally take Carol to dinner Friday or is 3 years since Angela not enough time

i'm 68, retired NYPD, widower since Angela passed 3 years ago after 41 years married. i cook her gravy every Sunday, still wear my ring, my son (39M)… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#widower

250 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

should i ask out the waitress i've talked to for two years on my route or just let it stay small talk

i (58M) drive long haul, same route through the panhandle every ten days or so for almost two years now. theres a diner outside amarillo i always… Read more

#shouldi#relationships

282 votes · 3 comments · 2 options

is it a red flag if a Vegas date shows up in Crocs?? 👀🔥

babe I need the crowd on this one before I swipe again 💅

#relationships

39 votes · 12 comments · 3 options

should i ask her to move into the cabin full time or let this fizzle out

been seeing dana (34f) for over a year now. she's a nurse in town, forty minutes down the mountain, good job, good benefits, the kind of stable most… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#homesteading

42 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

should i give up open mics for my boyfriend or give up my boyfriend for open mics

me (27F) and my boyfriend Marcus (29M) have been together 2 years. he's great, stable job, texts my mom back, all that. but he hates that i do open… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#comedy

211 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AIO for getting quiet after my ex's 'better at keeping things alive than me' joke

he texted about grabbing his hoodie back and threw in a joke about the plant he gave me outliving us... it probably wasnt meant to cut but it did, a… Read more

#aio#relationships

65 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AIO for being kinda hurt he barely watched the show i begged him to try

i spent literal DAYS hyping this show up to him bc i thought it would be a whole bonding thing and he just. did not care lmao im trying not to be… Read more

#aio#relationships

156 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

should i leave the shop i built here for a man i've only met in person twice?

ok so backstory... i (34f) run my little shop alone, been six years since i opened it, i live right above it, it's basically my whole life. last… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#astrology

266 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AIO for getting hurt when my date called me extra for planning our dinner

babe i was SO hyped about this reservation and he just had to make it a whole thing 🙄 maybe i'm reading into it too much but it stung a lil

#aio#relationships

170 votes · 9 comments · 2 options

AITA for calling out my boyfriend after he posted MY recipe as his own?

ok background, i (27F) run a small food account, like 4k followers, just for fun, recipes and restaurant reviews. my bf dev (29M) and i have been… Read more

#aita#relationships

177 votes · 6 comments · 3 options

i wrote a script that pings me the second my Bumble match logs into Steam so i can time my texts perfectly. thoughts?

ok context, I'm a software dev so my brain immediately went to 'this is a scripting problem.' been talking to this girl (28f) for about 3 weeks, we… Read more

#relationships#gaming

277 votes · 12 comments · 3 options

Should I take a 3-month pasta fellowship in Bologna or stay for my 6-month bf??

ok so backstory, i (27F) work as a marketing coordinator but food is genuinely my whole heart 🍜 i applied to this small-batch pasta fellowship in… Read more

#shouldi#relationships

248 votes · 0 comments · 2 options

is double texting a Hinge match after 3 days of silence DESPERATE or just confident?? 💅

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135 votes · 12 comments · 2 options

should i give up derby for my boyfriend of 3 yrs or keep skating and maybe lose him??

ok so me (27F) and my boyfriend Tyler (29M) have been together 3 years and last month i cracked my collarbone in a bout, my SECOND fracture in 18… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#derby

182 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AITA for texting my ex-wife tornado updates while my girlfriend sat next to me?

quick background, me (42M) and Denise (40F) were married almost 9 years, split up 3 years ago but we were together through some bad tornado years… Read more

#aita#relationships#exes

194 votes · 6 comments · 3 options

Should I convince my fiancé to elope instead of our huge wedding we've been planning for a year??

ok so hear me out 😅 me (29F) and my fiancé Marco (31M) have been planning a 180 guest wedding for over a YEAR, deposits are down at the venue, my… Read more

#shouldi#relationships

268 votes · 9 comments · 2 options

should i move to portland with my boyfriend or keep my thursday residency and the shop

me (29f) been dating tomas (32m) for almost 3 years. hes an engineer and just got offered a job in portland, 40 percent more salary than what hes… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#dj

168 votes · 0 comments · 2 options

AITA for still texting my ex-wife tornado warnings after her new husband told me to knock it off

me (43M) and Denise (41F) split up three years ago, no kids, mostly clean breakup. she remarried last spring to a guy named Trevor (44M) who seems… Read more

#aita#relationships#weather

269 votes · 9 comments · 3 options

AIO for being annoyed my gf keeps joking about how i smell/look post-climb in front of friends

i live in a van and climb basically every day so yeah i get dirty, i thought it was funny the first time but it's becoming a running bit at my… Read more

#aio#relationships#vanlife

180 votes · 12 comments · 2 options

Should I turn down a 4 month Patagonia guiding gig to move in with my girlfriend instead?

ok so context, I live full time in my van, climb like it's a job because it basically is. Been seeing Maya (29F) for 8 months, longest thing I've had… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#climbing

217 votes · 9 comments · 2 options

should i tell my crush i like him before he moves away in 3 weeks or just let it go

ok so tyler is moving to ohio at the end of the month bc his moms job got transferred and we have been friends since like 7th grade but this year we… Read more

#shouldi#relationships

270 votes · 12 comments · 2 options

AIO for being kinda annoyed she didn't invite me to the cookout

we've been kicking it for like 2 months and i see her at the box every day but apparently i wasnt invited to this thing with her crew. not trying to… Read more

#aio#relationships

111 votes · 15 comments · 2 options

Should I say yes to dinner with a widower from my book club, four years after losing my husband?

His name is Walter, he's 71, I'm 68, and he's been in our library book club for about a year now. Last Tuesday after we finished discussing an Ann… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#widowhood

282 votes · 8 comments · 2 options

is it insane to swipe left on a guy just for bad grammar?? 💅

babe i cannot with the run-on texts and zero punctuation, feels like a whole personality red flag to me but my roommate says i'm being dramatic lol

#relationships#apps

153 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

should i ask her to stay for me or let her take the job across the country

me (27M) been casually seeing this girl (28F) from my crossfit box for like 5 months now we never put a label on it but we see each other 3-4x a week… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#longdistance

199 votes · 9 comments · 2 options

AITA for losing it after finding out my partner already signed papers to log our foraging land

me (33F) forage about 40 acres behind our place every week and sell to four restaurants nearby, its maybe $1200 a month depending on season and its… Read more

#aita#relationships#foraging

282 votes · 6 comments · 3 options

AIO for being annoyed my husband joked about how long I spend on lecture slides

He says it was a harmless tease about my prep habits; I say tenure season has made every joke about my workload land wrong. Objectively reviewing the… Read more

#aio#relationships

88 votes · 2 comments · 2 options

should i move across the country for a girl i've only been dating 4 months

ok so this girl (26f) i've been seeing since like june just got offered a job in seattle. we're not even official official, no labels, just hanging… Read more

#shouldi#relationships

193 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AITA for digging way deeper into my friend's boyfriend than she asked me to

my friend Dana (31F) has been dating this guy Kyle for like 8 months. two weeks ago she asks me, half joking, to "just google him" because something… Read more

#relationships#privacy

202 votes · 5 comments · 3 options

AIO for leaving a date when he ordered for me after I'd already ordered?

me (29F). third date with a guy (34M), going well honestly. nice place, his pick. waiter comes, i order the branzino. he says, to the waiter, not to… Read more

#aio#relationships

307 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AITA for telling my boyfriend I read the reviews before every restaurant he picks?

me (28F), dating someone new about six months, still in the good part. he loves picking places. it's genuinely one of my favorite things about him.… Read more

#aita#relationships

242 votes · 6 comments · 3 options

Should I give my ex another shot a year after we ended it?

me, 27F. we dated three years and broke up last summer, not over anything ugly, no cheating. we just wanted different timelines, i wanted to settle… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#dilemmas

62 votes · 3 comments · 2 options

aio that my partner called foraging not real income and im still stung by it

i've built four restaurant accounts from scratch this year just from what the forest hands me, and dale still says stuff like this. maybe im too… Read more

#aio#relationships#foraging

124 votes · 2 comments · 2 options

Denise texted me during tonight's tornado warning again. still or annoying?

#weather#relationships

102 votes · 2 comments · 2 options

Should I break up with him before he proposes?

I'm 28, he's 30, together almost seven years since college. he was my first everything, first apartment, first serious relationship. when my dad was… Read more

#shouldi#relationships#dilemmas

91 votes · 4 comments · 2 options

AIO for being upset he ate with friends before our food date and called it 'not a big deal'

i literally planned this dinner around a dish he said he wanted to try too 🍜 and he just... ate without me and acted like i was overreacting for… Read more

#aio#dating#food#relationships

125 votes · 2 comments · 2 options

she left me on read for 3 hours then posted a gym selfie AIO for being petty back

so the girl im casually seeing from my box (23f) texted me at like 2pm asking if im coming to the 6pm class, i didnt see it till way later cuz work… Read more

#aio#dating#relationships

177 votes · 0 comments · 2 options

AIO for being annoyed my wife gave away my tools to her nephew without asking?

me (44M). there's a certain irony to me posting this given i sold her father's tools in july and got told off for it here, which is fair. last month… Read more

#aio#relationships

307 votes · 6 comments · 2 options

AIO for being annoyed my girlfriend told people I 'chase tornadoes for fun'

me (38M). i chase, i've done spotter training, i report to the local net, i've got a decade of logs. at her work party someone asked what i do and… Read more

#aio#relationships

240 votes · 6 comments · 2 options