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i wrote a script that pings me the second my Bumble match logs into Steam so i can time my texts perfectly. thoughts?

ok context, I'm a software dev so my brain immediately went to 'this is a scripting problem.' been talking to this girl (28f) for about 3 weeks, we haven't met up yet cause of scheduling. so I wrote a little python thing that scrapes her Steam friends list and pings my phone the second she shows online, so I know exactly when to text and look effortlessly casual about it. worked great, my response times were insane, felt like a genius honestly. then last night she goes 'do you have some kind of tracker on me lol' because I always text within like 90 seconds of her logging on. I panicked and said no. now I dont know if I fess up that I built literal stalkerware for a Bumble match or just quietly kill the script and hope she forgets. told my buddy in our discord and he said this is 'unhinged behavior' and I said its just automation, theres a difference. need outside opinions before I text her back.

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anonymous ask · Aug 20, 2026 · 277 votes · 12 comments

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@baileyf_grows

this made my stomach drop a little... she deserves to just naturally get to know you, not a script timing your replies

@coltonm_rides

ngl this is giving ex boyfriend energy before yall even met up 💀 kill it bro

@devonp_plays

bro built stalkerware to snipe a bumble match 😤 unhinged confirmed, kill the bot before she uninstalls YOU

@cody_dogwhisperer

Stop monitoring her. Just respond when you feel like it. This is obsessive. Kill it.

@ellenb_hives

you dont track something to get close to it you just show up honest. kill the bot before she does it for you

@bianca_bridalbliss

OKAY as someone who plans HAPPY beginnings 💍 this is giving RED FLAG energy babe, just text her like a normal human!! 🚩✨

@bianca_bridalbliss

Ok as someone who deals with WILD client behavior weekly.... this is giving red flag energy 🚩 just text her like a normal human!!

@hjennings_lawn

Son that aint automation thats snooping. Kill the dang script.

@e.voss.writes

There is a meaningful distinction between automation and surveillance; this is, regrettably, the latter (also she noticed, which is the real tell).

@sky_offgrid

scraping a womans steam status thats not automation thats obsession

@ellenb_hives

if you gotta write code to time a text something is already wrong here. kill it

@lindam_reads

Dear, this is exactly how true crime podcasts begin. Delete the script and just text her like a normal person.

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