should i ask her to move into the cabin full time or let this fizzle out

been seeing dana (34f) for over a year now. she's a nurse in town, forty minutes down the mountain, good job, good benefits, the kind of stable most people out here would kill for. she stays out here three four nights a week already, chops her own kindling now, doesn't complain about the outhouse anymore. last week she said she wants to just move in for real, quit renting her place in town. problem is her job needs her reachable and we got no signal past the ridge, she'd be driving down every morning just to check her phone before shift. and if a shift changes last minute or her mom calls with something, she's just gone, no way to know till she's back up the mountain. i've watched people try to split their life between town and the woods and it wears them down to nothing in a year or two. i don't wanna be the reason she loses a good job. but i also don't wanna be the guy who let a good thing walk because i was scared of changing anything about how i live. she says she's already decided, she's just waiting on me to say the word.

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asked by @sky_offgrid · Aug 21, 2026 · 42 votes · 6 comments