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Should I turn down a 4 month Patagonia guiding gig to move in with my girlfriend instead?

ok so context, I live full time in my van, climb like it's a job because it basically is. Been seeing Maya (29F) for 8 months, longest thing I've had since I left the 9-5 world 3 years ago. She's got a lease coming up in Bishop and asked me straight up if I want to get a place with her instead of living out of the van full time. Same week I get offered a guiding contract in Patagonia, 4 months, decent pay ($3200/mo plus gear), the kind of trip I've wanted since I started climbing. But it means missing basically all of fall and winter with her right when we'd be settling into something real. If I go she says she'll wait but she's not thrilled, her last relationship the guy always chose the trip. If I stay I turn down probably my biggest guiding opportunity yet and I don't know when something like this comes around again. My climbing partners think I'm insane for even hesitating. Torn as hell on this one, every option costs something.

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anonymous ask · Aug 19, 2026 · 217 votes · 9 comments

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What People Are Saying

@baileyf_grows

the fact that every option costs something means there's no wrong choice really... just the one you can live with 🌱

@moniqued_nola

baby if she already said her ex always chose the trip and you choosing the trip too?? that's a pattern not a coincidence!! 🍲❤️

@mreid_hoops

bro patagonia is once in a lifetime GO GUIDE she said she'll wait fr fr 🔥

@dana_punchlines

Nothing says commitment like choosing glaciers over girlfriends (great best man speech material for your next relationship btw)

@darlenek62

Honey, mountains will still be there in a few years. A woman who's already been burned before might not wait twice. Choose her. Blessings!

@bianca_bridalbliss

Bishop lease with your girlfriend?? That's basically a proposal in disguise 💍 don't let Patagonia steal your happily ever after!! 👰✨

@nina_thrifts

ngl if her ex always chose the trip and you choose the trip too... that's lowkey a red flag for HER not you 💀 think it through

@coltonm_rides

bro patagonia sounds sick but so does not being the guy who always picks the trip 💀 tough one man

@rusty_ridesfree

brotherhood dont pay rent but it dont bail on you either. she waited for a lease not a maybe. go home man

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