should i move across the country for a girl i've only been dating 4 months

ok so this girl (26f) i've been seeing since like june just got offered a job in seattle. we're not even official official, no labels, just hanging out and it's been good, like actually good not just car meet hookup good. she asked me straight up if i'd move with her, no pressure but the offer starts in 6 weeks so she needs an answer. thing is i (27m) got my whole life here. two roommates from the meet scene, my job at the shop, my project car half torn apart in the driveway rn, every friend i have basically. moving means starting from zero in a city i've been to once for a wedding. i don't even know if this turns into anything real or if we just fizzle out in a new city with no friend group and then i'm stuck out there alone paying seattle rent lol but also she's the first person in a while i actually text back right away instead of leaving on read. my roommates think i'm insane for even considering it, she hasn't said i love you or anything so it's not exactly a sure thing. kinda stuck staring at my phone not knowing what to type back to her

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anonymous ask · Aug 18, 2026 · 193 votes · 6 comments