Should I take a 3-month pasta fellowship in Bologna or stay for my 6-month bf??

ok so backstory, i (27F) work as a marketing coordinator but food is genuinely my whole heart 🍜 i applied to this small-batch pasta fellowship in Bologna MONTHS ago as a joke basically, never thought i'd get in. it's 3 months, they cover housing but its unpaid so i'd be living off savings ($6k, most of what i have) and i'd have to break my apartment lease which is a $1400 penalty. the timing is SO bad because i just started dating Dev (29M) six months ago and things are genuinely so good rn, like meeting-friends-good, talking-about-next-year good. he says he supports me going and would do the long distance thing but he also got quiet when i showed him the acceptance email and said "three months is a long time" and i cant stop thinking about that. my mom thinks im insane to even hesitate bc how often does a pasta fellowship in ITALY come along. my best friend thinks im insane to consider blowing up a good relationship for noodles. i keep going back and forth every single day and i leave in 5 weeks if im going so i need to actually decide 😩🌿

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asked by @priyac_eats · Aug 20, 2026 · 248 votes · 0 comments