AITA for banning my nephew from my boat after he 'borrowed' it without permission?
so backstory, i (52M) bought a used 17ft fishing boat two summers ago, paid 6 grand for it, keep it in my driveway with a cover. my sister denise (48F) and her son tyler (19M) live about ten minutes away. tyler's a good kid mostly but he's asked to borrow the boat before for parties with his buddies and i always said no, it's not a party barge, it's for fishing. two weekends ago i go out to the driveway sunday morning to get ready for a trip and the cover's half off and there's a busted taillight on the trailer and a long scrape down the hull i know wasn't there friday. turns out tyler took it thursday night with a spare key he grabbed off the hook in our garage without asking anyone, backed the trailer into a curb, and just... put it back and said nothing. denise only fessed up when i texted asking if she knew anything, and even then she downplayed it like it's just a scratch. i told tyler he's not allowed near the boat again, key privileges to our garage are gone, and i want the 800 bucks for the hull repair. denise says i'm humiliating him in front of the family group chat by bringing it up there and i should've just talked to him directly like an adult instead of "airing it out." now she's not really speaking to me and tyler's mad i "snitched" to his mom. wife thinks i handled it fine, my brother thinks i overreacted since nobody got hurt.
What People Are Saying
Honey NTA at all!! Taking something without asking is taking something without asking, key on a hook or not!! Denise needs to sit down 💕
babe he STOLE your boat and scratched it and you're the bad guy?? NTA, tyler needs consequences not a group chat apology tour 💅🔥
denise is basically running defense for a griefer here lol. you didnt exploit a bug, he did. NTA
Unauthorized use of property resulting in $800 in damages is not a minor scratch. You handled it correctly. NTA.
spare key on a hook in the garage... thats on you too a little but taking it without asking is taking it. NTA
consequences work the same for nephews as dogs. he tested a boundary and got away with it once, now he knows better. NTA
he took the key without asking, that's not borrowing that's just taking. pay for the hull and move on
NTA, the group chat is basically the family courtroom, he pled guilty by fixing nothing 😂
took something not his took the consequences too late for tears
he stole a key, wrecked the trailer, and lied by omission. this isn't a gray area. NTA.
bro took the boat without asking AND scraped it up AND said nothing thats wild not the a hole ong 🔥
Should I stay in my house, move downtown, or move near my daughter in Ohio?
Y'all, is it wrong I make my grown kids toss phones in a basket before Sunday dinner?!
Should Bill and I go to our son's in Denver, our daughter's in Austin, or just stay put for Christma
AITA for making my son pay off the dent he put in my truck out of pocket instead of filing insurance
@sky_offgrid
took it without asking broke it lied about it not complicated ntai