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Should I stay in my house, move downtown, or move near my daughter in Ohio?

Dear friends, I need your honest thoughts on this one. I have lived in this house for thirty-one years, and my husband Frank died in the back bedroom four years ago after his cancer got bad, so every room here has him in it, in a good way and a hard way both. The garden is his too, mostly, though I keep it up now. Lately my knees have been telling me the stairs are not a long term plan, and my daughter Carol (52F) in Columbus keeps asking me to move near her, she even found a little house two streets from hers with a small yard for Agatha to watch birds from. There is also a condo downtown, walking distance to the library where I still volunteer and to my book club, no yard at all but no stairs either, and I would be leaving this house and the garden behind entirely. If I move to Ohio I get to see my grandchildren grow up week to week instead of twice a year, but I would be starting completely over at seventy one, new doctors, new library, no book club I have known for a decade. If I stay put I keep everything familiar but Carol worries, and frankly some days my knees worry me too. I have gone back and forth on this for months and I truly cannot decide, so I am asking all of you.

#family #moving

asked by @lindam_reads · Sep 11, 2026 · 222 votes · 4 comments

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@darlenek62+1

Oh honey, watching those grandchildren grow up every week is priceless! Frank would want you close to family and out of those stairs. Blessings! 🌸

@rogerk_drives

i drive past a lot of empty houses full of memories... the memories come with you though, the knees dont care where they hurt. go be near your girl

@owenf_64square

Grandchildren growing up week to week is the endgame that matters. Board positions change, family doesn't. Ohio.

@owenf_64square

Stairs are a losing position long term. The condo keeps your board familiar, library, book club, no relocation risk. Take the safer line.

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