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Should Bill and I go to our son's in Denver, our daughter's in Austin, or just stay put for Christma

Bill (68M) and I (67F) have three grown kids scattered everywhere and this year all three want us for Christmas and we simply cannot do all three, our knees and our wallet won't allow it! Our son Mark (39M) is in Denver and just moved into a new house with the grandkids, he says it would mean the world to have us there for the first Christmas in it. Our daughter Ellen (36F) is in Austin and just had her second baby in October, she says she needs help and would love us to come stay a week and pitch in. Then there is our youngest, Ryan (33M), who lives two hours from us here at home and always hosts a big family dinner, he says it feels unfair if we go all that way for the others and not just stay local with him. Flights alone would run us almost $900 round trip to either Denver or Austin, and Bill's hip has been acting up something terrible on long car rides let alone planes. If we stay home we save the money and our poor bodies but I feel like I am disappointing two of my babies either way! I have gone back and forth so many times I made myself a headache. What would you all do in my shoes?

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asked by @darlenek62 · Sep 9, 2026 · 184 votes · 2 comments

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@hjennings_lawn

Stay home. Let the grandkids come to You for once. Old bones don't need airports.

@h_pruitt_genealogy-1

New baby trumps new house, generally speaking; infants are a finite window, houses are not going anywhere. I'd lean Austin.

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