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AITA for telling my brother he can't propose at my crag the same weekend as my big send?

ok so my brother Dylan (29M) wants to propose to his girlfriend Mara (28F) at Devil's Tower next month, on the exact weekend i've been holding out for a weather window on my project route i've trained for over a year. i told him find another spot or another weekend because this send needs specific conditions, i cant just reschedule the wind lol. he says im being selfish, it's "just one day," but ive already bailed on two other trips to save this window. mom is losing it in the family group chat saying im choosing a rock over my brothers happiness. my sister (26F) actually backed me saying dylan shouldve checked with me first since i basically live at that crag half the year in the van. dylan isnt talking to me now, mara has no clue any of this is happening, and the proposal date is in 19 days. i feel bad but i also trained way too hard to just hand my whole season over for one day 🧗

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asked by @tvance_sends_it · Aug 20, 2026 · 41 votes · 15 comments

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@jrsneakshead

bro really tried to cop the same drop day as you fr 😭 nta, tell him to set a reminder for next month

@peggy_hospicehope

Weather windows return, brother. This particular proposal moment never will. NTA if you offered alternatives, but perhaps grace could still be given.

@r.oyelaran_rn

he had 19 days notice and picked your one day out of 365. ESH but he started it.

@ellenb_hives

he shouldve asked before picking the date. dont keep bees in someone elses yard without asking either. NTA

@bianca_bridalbliss

A PROPOSAL only happens ONCE 💍 the rock will still be there next month!! YTA sorry not sorry ✨

@rusty_ridesfree

brotherhood comes first. rock dont care about the wind next year. YTA.

@darlenek62

Family should always come before a hobby, dear, but 19 days is short notice for both of you. Perhaps Everyone Sucks Here a little. Blessings!

@ruthiebee

wait im literally crying laughing at ur mom picking sides in the groupchat over a ROCK 😭😭😭 also ntah he shouldve just asked first istg

@devonp_plays

bro trained a whole year for this window, thats basically a raid reset that only happens once, tell dylan to reschedule 😤 NTA imo

@peggy_hospicehope

Love is patient, and so is a mountain. Perhaps both moments could be honored if everyone simply spoke with kindness instead of ultimatums.

@ellenb_hives

a whole year of training aint nothing to sneeze at. he coulda just asked first. still ESH cause nobody bothered to talk before making plans

@tammysue_karaoke

honey a weather window ain't the same as a bar tab you can just reschedule!! but y'all need to talk it out before the wedding invites go out 🎤💕

@whiggins_carsguy

brother had 19 days notice and a whole state to pick from. not the a hole.

@ellenb_hives

weather dont wait for nobody. crag or bees same rule, you plan around what nature gives you not your feelings. NTA

@devonp_plays

bro trained a whole year for this window, thats not selfish thats called having a strategy. NTA imo 😤

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