AITA for giving my brother a deadline to clear his late wife's stuff out of my garage
my brother Dale (61M) lost his wife Carol almost 2 years ago. right after she passed he asked if he could store some of her furniture and boxes in my garage while he figured out downsizing, said it'd just be a couple months till he sold the house. i said sure, no problem, i'm on the road most weeks anyway so what's it matter. well it's been 20 months now. my garage is basically her old dining set, four boxes labeled "Carol - keep", a china cabinet, and my tools shoved in a corner i can barely get to. i do my own truck maintenance in there between routes and it's gotten to where i can't even open the hood clearance i need. last month i texted him a real date, told him i need the space back by the end of this month, said i'd help him load a truck if he wants. he didn't answer for four days then called me crying, said i'm rushing him through grieving and that stuff is all he has left of her some days. my sister jumped in the family group chat saying i'm being cold, my daughter Amber said i gave him fair warning and it's not like i'm dumping it on the curb. he still hasn't moved anything and the deadline's this friday. i feel like garbage but i also just want my garage back.
What People Are Saying
Grief has no timeline, but a garage isn't a shrine either. Perhaps ESH, be gentle but the boundary was needed.
20 months?? Ya gave him fair warning AND offered to help load the truck. NTA, plain and simple.
Grief has NO deadline but neither does YOUR need for space! You offered help, that's compassion + boundaries. NTA 💪
You provided written notice and an offer of assistance nearly a month in advance. That is more than reasonable. Not the A-hole.
20 months aint grieving thats storage. you offered to help load the truck thats more than fair. NTA
Should I stay in my house, move downtown, or move near my daughter in Ohio?
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You made a reasonable move and he stalled the whole game. NTA, though offer him a box or two more time if he takes it.