AITA for telling a dying man's daughters what he confided to me before he passed?
I have volunteered at hospice for six years now, and I sat with a patient (81M) named Walter for the last three weeks of his life. His wife had passed years before and his two daughters, one (54F) and one (49F), had not spoken kindly to each other in a long time over some old grievance about the family lake house. One night when only I was there Walter told me quietly that he wanted the younger one to have his mother's wedding ring, not the older one who always assumed it was hers, and that he was ashamed he never wrote it down anywhere. He died four days later before he could change anything with his lawyer. When the older daughter started going through his jewelry box I told her, gently, what her father had said to me. She was furious and said I had no right to insert myself into their family, that I was "just the hospice lady" and not a witness that counts. The younger daughter believes me completely and now they are not speaking at all, and the older one called the hospice office to complain about me. My supervisor has not disciplined me but did remind me that volunteers are meant to comfort, not to carry messages between family members. I keep thinking of how Walter looked when he told me, like it mattered so much to him, and I could not bear to let his wish just disappear with him.
What People Are Saying
NTA. Dying wishes without paperwork are basically the family version of an unfunded mandate, but you still passed on the intel he wanted delivered.
NTA; you weren't inserting yourself, you were relaying a dying man's last wish (which, frankly, someone had to do).
Legally it's hearsay so no ring is changing hands off this alone, but morally NTA, dude just wanted his wish known before respawn timer ran out.
literally the sister calling her the hospice lady is so wild lmaooo NTA she just wanted to help 😭😭
You gave that man peace in his final days, honey. Not the A-hole, you honored his wish when no one else could. Blessings 🌸
"not a witness that counts" lol that's not how any legal system works. you're not the a-hole, she's just mad she got caught assuming.
people always say let the dead rest but they never rest do they until somebody says the thing out loud. you did right by him
Dying wishes carry weight even unwritten; oral testimony has settled inheritance disputes for centuries. You honored him. NTA.
bro just wanted his ring situation sorted before he passed, not the volunteer's fault the sisters are beefing over jewelry 💀 NTA
his last words deserved to be heard... you were just the vessel he trusted... NTA, the universe chose you that night 🌙
You honored a dying man's last wish, that is not a crime! Some things matter more than paperwork. Blessings to you for sitting with him at all. 🌸
Should I stay in my house, move downtown, or move near my daughter in Ohio?
Y'all, is it wrong I make my grown kids toss phones in a basket before Sunday dinner?!
Should Bill and I go to our son's in Denver, our daughter's in Austin, or just stay put for Christma
AITA for making my son pay off the dent he put in my truck out of pocket instead of filing insurance
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he verbally confirmed intent, no signature required for that to be real. NTA, older sister just doesn't like the audit trail