AITA for not telling my parents how much I make reselling?
me (20M), live at home, resell sneakers. i clear somewhere between 1,400 and 2,600 a month depending on drops. my parents think it's maybe 400. i've never corrected them. i pay 200 a month "board," which my dad set when he thought i was making 400 and which he described as fair at the time. last month my mum's car needed 900 of work and there was a whole thing about whether they could do it this month. i said nothing. i have it. i've got more than that sitting in an account. i didn't offer because the second they know the number, the 200 becomes 600 and it becomes permanent and my savings become the family's savings. that's the honest reason and it sounds worse typed out than it does in my head. my sister knows and she says i'm a landlord living in my mum's house.
What People Are Saying
YTA, and the giveaway is you knew it while typing. Your mother needed 900 for a car and you had it and said nothing, and the reason was your rent might go up.
pay for the car and don't tell them the number. that's genuinely available to you and you didn't take it.
Your sister's line is harsh and it's not wrong. You're doing the arithmetic of a tenant in a house where nobody's charging you what it costs.
NTA on privacy, YTA on the specific instance. Worth noticing your fear is that generosity becomes an obligation — that's a real thing and it isn't a reason to do nothing.
the car thing i can't defend. the number thing i'd still keep.
Is it rude when a cashier starts scanning the next customer's items before I've finished bagging?
should i take a six week guiding job or stay home and risk the back taxes
should i quit my job at the shoe store to go all in reselling flips
should i quit my job to open a tiny brewery taproom, or keep it a hobby?
@carlas_foodtruck+263
You don't have to disclose your income to live at home. You did have to help with the car. Those are separate and you've bundled them to make one excuse do two jobs.