AITA for telling my wife I'm not quitting competitive eating?
me (36M), factory work, i compete most weekends. eleven years. my wife (35F) has asked me to stop. not angrily. she sat down and asked properly. her reasons are my blood pressure, my dad's heart, and that i had a bad one in may where i went too hard and was genuinely unwell for two days. my reasons are it's eleven years, it's most of my friends, and i'm good at it in a way i've never been good at anything. i said no. i said i'd cut down, i'd do the qualifiers and not the eating-est stuff, and i'd get the bloods done. she said cutting down is what people say. she's not wrong that it's what people say. i also genuinely meant it and i don't know how to prove that except over about two years, which is a long time to ask her to watch.
What People Are Saying
Get the bloods done first, before any of this argument continues. If they're fine you've got a much stronger case. If they're not, the argument's over and she was right.
NTA on not quitting. Your wife isn't asking you to stop being good at something, she's asking you not to die at 50 like your dad nearly did.
my dad was 54. she's never said that number to me and i think about it every single qualifier.
ESH-lite. She asked properly and you answered with a plan she has no way to verify. Give her something checkable.
NTA. Eleven years and most of your friends is a life, not a hobby, and people telling you to just drop it don't have one of those.
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"Cutting down is what people say" — she's right, and the way you beat it is a written thing. Three events a year, on paper, on the fridge. Not a promise, a number.