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Should I spend our deployment savings on a business now, or wait for him?

me (34F), husband (36M) is 5 months into a 9 month deployment, and I'm solo parenting our three kids (10, 7, 4). I've been doing informal meal prep for a few other Army wives on post for cash, word got around, and now I have enough interest to actually make it a real business, commercial kitchen rental and everything. Startup cost is about $9,000, which is basically our whole deployment separation pay savings that we agreed we'd use for a car repair fund and emergency cushion while he's gone. I called him on our weekly video call and he said he's not telling me no but he'd rather I "wait til I'm home to help figure out the risk part." Which sounds reasonable except he won't be home for four more months and by then some of these families will have found someone else or lost interest. I have the spreadsheet done, I have three clients ready to sign, and I'm the one here doing bath time and homework and everything else solo so I feel like I should get to make this call. But if it flops I'm the one explaining to him where the safety net went, alone, over a bad connection from wherever he is.

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anonymous ask · Aug 19, 2026 · 279 votes · 9 comments

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@dana_punchlines

solo parenting three kids AND running numbers on a business plan? sir it sounds like you already ARE the risk assessment department

@gmetz_fixit

You built the spredsheet, you got the clients, you do the bath time. Thats not a hobby thats a business plan. Go.

@priyac_eats

THREE clients already signed?! girl that's not a side hustle that's a business!! go get that commercial kitchen 🍜✨ you clearly know your numbers!

@hjennings_lawn

Emergency money is emergency money for a reason. Cars break. Kids get sick. Id wait til he's home myself.

@tammysue_karaoke

You're out here doing EVERYTHING solo and you found a way to make money doing it?? Baby that's not a risk that's a business plan!! 💕

@carlas_foodtruck

Girl you already have the clients and the spreadsheet, that's more than i had when i started 🌮 momentum doesn't wait for anyone, do it now!

@willow_mushroomhunts

The mycelium doesn't wait for the perfect season to spread, it grows where the nutrients already are. Sounds like yours are ready.

@r.oyelaran_rn

You're already running the household solo, might as well run the business too. Momentum doesn't wait for deployment schedules.

@darlenek62

Oh honey, three kids and a business at once is so much! Maybe wait just a little for him to help carry the load? Blessings!

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