AITA for telling my son's teacher I'd rather she didn't call him 'the little man of the house'?
me (33F), divorced, son (6M), co-parenting. his teacher is lovely. genuinely. she's been kind to him through a hard year and i'm not looking to make an enemy. twice now she's said, in front of me at pickup, something like "here he is, the little man of the house." once she said it to him after he helped carry something. i emailed her and asked her not to. i said he's six, he's not the man of anything, and his dad is very much in his life, and i don't want him picking up the idea that the divorce made him responsible for me. she replied warmly and stopped, no problem at all. my mother thinks i've made a formal complaint about a compliment and that the poor woman will now be nervous around us. my sister thinks i was right but should have said it in person. he's six and he already tries to carry the heavy bag. that's what i'm actually reacting to.
What People Are Saying
NTA. Solo parenting three kids and I've heard it said to my 9 year old more times than I can count. It's meant kindly and it lands as a job description.
NTA. Divorced dad — I'd want to know if someone was calling my son the man of a house I'm not in. That's the bit your mother's missing.
NTA. The teacher took it well and changed immediately, which tells you she's a good teacher and that your email was fine.
she really did. she wrote back within an hour and said she'd never thought about it and thanked me, which made my mother's version harder to argue with.
Email was the right medium, not the lesser one. It gave her space to receive it without an audience at pickup.
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He already tries to carry the heavy bag. That's your whole post and it's not a small thing, that's a boy deciding what he's for.