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Should I turn down a $18k promotion to stay 4 days a week with Theo?

ok so backstory, my paternity leave (12 weeks) ends monday and my company already emailed me an actual promotion offer, team lead, +18k a year but its basically 50+ hrs and travel every other month. my boss wants an answer by friday!! my wife (31F) went back full time already and makes more than me anyway so we dont NEED the money, but my inlaws keep saying dont be dumb take it, careers dont wait. meanwhile my buddy who has a 4 year old keeps texting me "you will never get these months back bro" which is not helping my sleep deprived brain at ALL lol if i say no i stay at my current role 4 days a week, more theo time, more 3am feeds solo while she sleeps in on my day off, but i basically watch my career stall while coworkers who are single or dont have kids climb past me. if i say yes i barely see him awake for the next year probably. wife says its my call and shes fine either way which honestly makes it worse. im typing this one handed while he sleeps on my chest so sorry for any typos lol. genuinely dont know what to do here

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asked by @dpatel_newdad · Aug 21, 2026 · 274 votes · 8 comments

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@rusty_ridesfree

brotherhood dont pay bills but it dont leave you either. family first man. easy call

@ellenb_hives

you cant get the months back but you can always get another job. stay 4 days

@gmetz_fixit

back in my day nobody asked this. money comes and goes, that baby dont stay small twice. stay home.

@baileyf_grows

the years he needs you this small are so short... money can be earned later but these mornings cant be replanted 🌱

@garyh_brewsit

bro those 3am feeds are basically a fermentation process, you dont rush it lol. money will still be there, theo wont be this small forever. stay 🍺

@nina_thrifts

lowkey the inlaws arent the ones losing sleep for theo they dont get a vote 💀 stay four days

@walt_crosswordguy

You said yourselves you do not need the money. An extra 18k is not worth 50 hour weeks and missed milestones. Stay home.

@rusty_ridesfree

money dont hug you back at 3am. stay with your boy. brotherhood dont wait either but it understands.

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